Episode 2 of 9

This is a 4 part series. This is the full version of Episode 1 of ‘The Molotov Cocktail’: Are individuals on the Spectrum at risk of being taken advantage of by toxic people? Or “Do I have an N, P or S on my forehead?” In this full video, Tania answers the FAQ of, “are Autistic, Neurodiverse or Gifted and Talented (Twice-Exceptional) individuals at more risk than Neurotypicals of being involved with the dark triad”? She discusses the unique combination of characteristics and themes that set this population of people to be more likely to be involved with toxic people, why they are more vulnerable and helpful tips and recommendations from her 20 year career, including information from the autobiographies of over thousands of clients she has seen over her career.

In Episode II, Tania discusses 39 red flags to learn about and be observant about in people. She offers tips and advice and uses actual cases from her work to illustrate why Neurodiverse individuals are often taken advantage of. She includes those who are highly sensitive individuals, intuitive individuals, shy and passive individuals, and those that describe the traits of being an empath.

A review of the unique combination of traits that lead Neurodiverse individuals to be set up to possibly be involved in toxic, abusive or violent relationships within marriages, with partners, friendships, co-workers, in partnerships, family members or other individuals. She then discusses very common red flags (covert and overt) that toxic people display, including the words, behaviors, and actions to be mindful of.
She discusses examples of how people across the lifespan have been taken advantage of from her clinic work. She introduces the ‘dark triad language’ and discusses toxic people’s common and not so common behaviours, how to protect yourself, dating sites and identity theft, including how to get out of a toxic relationship, how to find out if a dating profile is fake and other helpful tips.

This video is is no way Transphobic. Tania discusses her work with gender dysphoric children and teens over her career, including themes and narratives, the Autistic brain, vulnerability and social naivety, the stories that her young and much older clients tell her, the impact of the Internet, what leads to confusion and how to work with these amazing and gifted children or teens.

Tania discusses why neurodiverse individuals need a ‘What Next’ section, after the diagnosis. In the full video, she addresses the fact that many individuals are not getting ‘What Next’ sections, why they are important, and how to explain a diagnosis in a strength-based way. She discusses how it frees an individual from being so hard on themselves, giving them permission to reframe the story they have been telling themselves. She also discusses educational resources, safety skills, the type of attitude an individual should have toward the diagnosis, making a success book, depressions attacks, getting a mentor or role model, and practicing extreme self-care and how to do this. She then discusses Alexithymia, Synesthesia, learning your sensory profile and making a sensory management kit, the pros and cons of disclosure, scripts, learning to advocate for yourself, intuitiveness, calming the brain, academic accommodations, intimacy and relationships, and finally; recommendations for a calming environment.

In Episode III, Tania discusses more about the traits of Narcissistic people, in particular. She also discusses the common disordered traits of the Dark Triad. This is her most FAQ that she receives. In this video she discusses their PhD in Manipulation, narcissism, and for the first time discusses her personal and professional experiences with these types of people. She talks about how detrimental they are to your health, the red flags, and then she asks the watch a series of questions they should consider if they are in a relationship with one of these dysfunctional people or are dating. Also, what to look out for at work. She discusses the painful parts of being with a Narcissist: acting, manipulating, charm and charisma and love bombing. Their brains are different. Tania discusses more red flags that you need to be aware of. She discusses indirect and direct abuse and the all too prevalent Tall Poppy Syndrome.

This has been Tania’s most FAQ. In this Episode, Tania unpacks The Ph.D. in Manipulation, the common language, and behaviors that Narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths use. In this episode, Tania discusses the cycle of abuse, from love-bombing to the toxic toolbox that is sure to come later. This toolbox includes: witching the topic, blaming you, the silent treatment, gaslighting, idealization, devaluation, crazymaking, Dr Jekyll to Mr. Hyde, the silent treatment, narcissistic supply, interrupting the conversation, control, projection, no accountability for their actions and much more.

In this episode, Tania discusses more about Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria and how she takes a compassionate and exploratory approach to working with her clients.